A God Wink December 03 2018, 0 Comments
We were recently in California & our friends
asked if my hubby wanted to swim in the ocean one morning.
My friends husband is an avid exerciser & had
really gotten into swimming in the open water as of recent.
John was a little hesitant as it was the Pacific & shark sitings
were common but he decided to go for it.
He put on his wet suit & was waiting in the water about waist
deep for our friend.
Then he noticed it. Not a shark but a seal. A big seal.
It startled him but he didn't panic.
He remained still and just observed.
He was telling this story to another friend this weekend.
He was explaining how the seal looked at him and John at it.
John said it was an unnerving but also peaceful moment.
He had one of those moments where he felt that he was just a dot in
this world - that there was so much more out there.
Here was this seal who had a whole separate world of it's own.
They eyed eachother and will never see eachother again.
Yet, they both were existing in the same world.
As he told his friend this story his friend said -
"sounded like a God wink".
I think that's exactly what it was.
The winks are there all the time I bet - we just have to
be willing to see them.
To me it's such a comforting thought.
Hope it is to you too!
Control November 29 2018, 0 Comments
Our teenager is going thru 7th grade.
We've always heard about "7th Grade".
And most of it is true.
It's such a roller coaster - circle of friends seem
to change often & it's been hard to watch.
it described what is going on to a T.
BUT again, how do you learn to deal with people?
You learn by going thru UPS and DOWNS.
That's maybe not the only way, but that is a
big part of it in my opinion.
With this weeks "downs" our message has been
"you can't control others, but you can control yourself".
Easy to say, but hard to do.
But man, if I had learned that at 13 it would have saved
me a lot of grief in the years to follow.
So in the meantime, I don't know if it will stick
but we will keep trying to reiterate the message.
The irony in all this is the mom in me wants to be able to control
her feelings for her, but I can't. And deep down I know I shouldn't.
All I can do is control what I do and hope she learns the same.
Ornaments November 29 2018, 0 Comments
So we decorated the tree a few nights ago.
Truly feels like I was just putting up our ornaments from the year before.
Going by way too fast.
Awhile back I bought an ornament from Dosa
clothing line I'm pretty much obsessed with.
Every year I love hanging it up.
It just makes me happy.
I also made the second one a few years ago
for our dog Ruffles.
Can't forget about the pups!
Saying No November 28 2018, 0 Comments
So I was thinking (shocker!!!)
I overthink. But it's ok, it's part of who I am.
I was talking to a friend today about people pleasers.
She and I are both, were more so in our younger days
than now, but at some point definitely were more of a people
pleaser than we want our daughters to be.
It got us thinking and then me thinking more -
how do I teach my daughters not to be people pleasers?
I mean, there is an aspect as far as social graces go
with being kind, respectful, etc.
But I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about the balance between being able to be kind
but also secure enough to say no.
I was much older when I learned this lesson
but I do think it's an important one, especially for women, girls.
Growing up in Texas I do believe there is a greater expectation
to be kind, extra kind almost too kind.
But I think, actually know, you can be kind and strong, firm.
Ultimately I also believe people respect you more if you
can say no and set your boundaries.
Anyway, I'm going to chew on this a bit more, but the wheels are turning.
Hope yours are turning too!
Holy cow...made this last night and had to share.
The whole fam loved it!! Even the kiddos!!
Just heard this for the first time...thought I'd share! It's a good one -
Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn’t know how she was going to make it. She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.
Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot, and ground coffee beans in the third pot.
He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.
After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl.
He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup. Turning to her he asked. “Daughter, what do you see?”
“Potatoes, eggs, and coffee,” she hastily replied.
“Look closer,” he said, “and touch the potatoes.” She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.
“Father, what does this mean?” she asked.
He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity– the boiling water.
However, each one reacted differently.
The potato went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.
The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.
However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.
“Which are you,” he asked his daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean? “
Moral:In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.
Which one are you?
SO YES, I DO THE BUYING & SET THE TONE &
DO A BUNCH
OF PAPER WORK TOO.
BUTTTTTT, I MUST TELL YOU THE SECRET TO MY STORE IS
THE GROUP OF GIRLS THAT HELP RUN IT WHILE I'M NOT THERE.
I WAS JUST CLEANING OUT EMAILS & CAME ACROSS THIS PICTURE.
WITHOUT THESE GIRLS THE TINY FINCH WOULDN'T RUN
THE WAY IT DOES.
I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW HARD THESE GIRLS WORK -
NOT IN THIS PIC ARE JACKIE, PAULINA, LAUREN & CHELSEA
I'M TELLING YOU GUYS - IT TAKES A VILLAGE!
SO IF YOU ARE THINKING OF STARTING A SMALL
BUSINESS, JUST KNOW THE HARDEST PART
IS HANDS DOWN FINDING GOOD PEEPS TO
HELP YOU RUN IT -
GRATEFUL FOR THE TF GALS!!
GREY November 06 2018, 0 Comments
I know it's "in" right now - but I've always loved
Grey - grey and green - my two favorite colors.
Check out the floor against the grey in this pic - beautiful.
Educated November 06 2018, 0 Comments
(great book - highly recommend)
But man, it was long.
I asked my brother, who reads basically for his living right now,
what would be a good book to read next.
Excited to read what it's all about!!
Challenges November 06 2018, 0 Comments
Just read this...it really spoke to me.
Challenges give you chances to get closer to what grounds you.
For me it's God.
But I forget - even though I've been thru it now a million times -
that when there is a challenging time that is the perfect chance
for me to turn to God and get closer to him.
What CHANCE will you turn to during your next CHALLENGE??