Saying No November 28 2018, 0 Comments
So I was thinking (shocker!!!)
I overthink. But it's ok, it's part of who I am.
I was talking to a friend today about people pleasers.
She and I are both, were more so in our younger days
than now, but at some point definitely were more of a people
pleaser than we want our daughters to be.
It got us thinking and then me thinking more -
how do I teach my daughters not to be people pleasers?
I mean, there is an aspect as far as social graces go
with being kind, respectful, etc.
But I'm not talking about that.
I'm talking about the balance between being able to be kind
but also secure enough to say no.
I was much older when I learned this lesson
but I do think it's an important one, especially for women, girls.
Growing up in Texas I do believe there is a greater expectation
to be kind, extra kind almost too kind.
But I think, actually know, you can be kind and strong, firm.
Ultimately I also believe people respect you more if you
can say no and set your boundaries.
Anyway, I'm going to chew on this a bit more, but the wheels are turning.
Hope yours are turning too!