Setting Expectations... December 01 2019, 0 Comments

I'm reflecting on the last few days
as they were truly amazing.  Just good 'ole classic
good times for Thanksgiving.
I think the only reason I can say they were good times
is not because of anything anyone else did but because of 
some things I tried this year to alleviate all the
little "edges" that can make holidays with family
a little unnerving at times.
#1
SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
People don't change.  I can't control them - but I can control
myself.  I can control how I react or don't react, how I roll my eyes
or don't roll my eyes, how I can get moody or not moody - you get the point.
Things are going to happen - you can't change that - but you can change
how you deal with the situation.
So this year I went into it remembering this and it worked!!!  
#2
DON'T BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE
I can be judgmental at times.
I'm not perfect and I need to realize that no one else is either.
The older I get I'm realizing to just love one another more - 
EVEN though I might be disagreeing, questioning, shaking my head inside...
the fact of the matter is, is that everyone has their stuff & everyone is going
thru something - so I'm trying to see it from that angle more.
Someone once said that if the world was coming to an end everyone would 
love one another and be on the same team - or something like that. 
Point is...everyone is doing the best that they can
#3
DRINK WHEN YOU WANT TO
I'm hard on myself when it comes to drinking wine.
I absolutely LOVE wine - not so much in the alcoholic way - but
I truly love the taste, the history, the experience...it's hard to explain.
BUT I come from a family with a lot of alcoholism in it so I can 
get insecure at times about when and how much I am drinking - 
it definitely can be a buzz kill (no pun intended :))
Anyway, this year I tried not to be so hard on myself & just 
enjoyed having a glass here or there - it was so much more enjoyable!
#4
ENJOY LISTENING MORE
I tried to listen - to everything - more.
Voices, the ocean, the birds, the wind, the rain - 
it felt good.
#5
WAKE UP EARLY
When I am constantly around people I can get 
overwhelmed and then it leaks out and comes 
out sideways.  What I have found is to find a 
time for quiet - to just be alone - really helps me feel
re-centered and enjoy everyones company more.
So I woke up early each morning - it definitely set
a better tone for the day!
#6
PLAY MUSIC
I swear music does wonders - right? 
Play uplifting music - it just puts people in a good mood!
Hope you had a great Thanksgiving too!
xoxo
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