I'm reflecting on the last few days
as they were truly amazing. Just good 'ole classic
good times for Thanksgiving.
I think the only reason I can say they were good times
is not because of anything anyone else did but because of
some things I tried this year to alleviate all the
little "edges" that can make holidays with family
a little unnerving at times.
SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
People don't change. I can't control them - but I can control
myself. I can control how I react or don't react, how I roll my eyes
or don't roll my eyes, how I can get moody or not moody - you get the point.
Things are going to happen - you can't change that - but you can change
how you deal with the situation.
So this year I went into it remembering this and it worked!!!
DON'T BE SO QUICK TO JUDGE
I can be judgmental at times.
I'm not perfect and I need to realize that no one else is either.
The older I get I'm realizing to just love one another more -
EVEN though I might be disagreeing, questioning, shaking my head inside...
the fact of the matter is, is that everyone has their stuff & everyone is going
thru something - so I'm trying to see it from that angle more.
Someone once said that if the world was coming to an end everyone would
love one another and be on the same team - or something like that.
Point is...everyone is doing the best that they can
DRINK WHEN YOU WANT TO
I'm hard on myself when it comes to drinking wine.
I absolutely LOVE wine - not so much in the alcoholic way - but
I truly love the taste, the history, the experience...it's hard to explain.
BUT I come from a family with a lot of alcoholism in it so I can
get insecure at times about when and how much I am drinking -
it definitely can be a buzz kill (no pun intended :))
Anyway, this year I tried not to be so hard on myself & just
enjoyed having a glass here or there - it was so much more enjoyable!
ENJOY LISTENING MORE
I tried to listen - to everything - more.
Voices, the ocean, the birds, the wind, the rain -
it felt good.
WAKE UP EARLY
When I am constantly around people I can get
overwhelmed and then it leaks out and comes
out sideways. What I have found is to find a
time for quiet - to just be alone - really helps me feel
re-centered and enjoy everyones company more.
So I woke up early each morning - it definitely set
a better tone for the day!
I swear music does wonders - right?
Play uplifting music - it just puts people in a good mood!
Hope you had a great Thanksgiving too!
Studio December 01 2019, 0 Comments
How beautiful is this studio...
Could totally hang out in here and just create...
such a beautiful space
16 Years November 23 2019, 0 Comments
Celebrated 16 years with the hubby last night.
They have amazing food and live jazz Thursday - Saturday.
Anyway we came home and watched our wedding video with our kiddos.
First of all can you say aged?? We look like pups!
The girls were laughing.
The homily that night I have always remembered.
Rev. Fikes said he "granted us an imperfect marriage" - one that is
constantly evolving - not something you get to and stop - but one that
you are constantly working on.
I do feel like that was a perfect grant so to speak.
Because to me marriage is something that is constantly changing - because of the state of things around you. Kids, work, home, etc.
I think that phrase can be applied to general life as well.
Life is imperfect - I once heard you need to find the perfection in the imperfections.
There are little silver linings everywhere - you just have to be willing to focus your
eyes in the right direction.
You just can't go wrong with neutral ceramics.
Classic, timeless pieces.
Love it when they are kind of "grainy" too.
Worry... November 19 2019, 0 Comments
So our home is a house full of worriers.
I mean - three out of four of us double check
the stove to make sure it's turned off.
Double check the doors at night.
Click the car alarm a few times to make sure it's locked -
crazy stuff like that. It's quirky, maybe a little neurotic but
it is what it is.
I woke up in the middle of the night last night with the weight
of worry all over me. I hate that feeling.
My mind started to go to all the things that I can't control
right now - I think that is where the worry comes on.
Then I remembered a saying someone told me a long time
ago when I used to be worried to fly...they said just repeat
"I trust you Jesus" over and over and over again.
I swear it works.
I fell right back asleep last night.
So much of worry for me is the fear behind not being able to control
things that are going on in my life right now.
Once I can let it go - whether thru prayer, meditation, healthy distraction - I feel
so much lighter - happier and able to focus on the things I can control.
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Teens November 06 2019, 0 Comments
So I have read and heard that teens
really get into themselves - it's all about them.
Totally get it.
But I was having a convo with my girls recently when
they were focusing on their hair, makeup etc...
I kept saying - "girls make sure and not to forget about your inside" -
And then one of them came up to me later and said "mom I know I shouldn't
be focused just on my outside but how do I change my thoughts so I'm focusing on other things as well".
I thought about it (shockkkerrrr) and realized once again
I said something so simple that probably wasn't so simple for someone their age.
We can get so focused on things - and we need to snap out of it and redirect
but it can be hard.
I think it's a two fold step - 1) recognize your focus is in one spot and 2) redirect it
I don't know...I totally get her question and I guess am still trying to figure it out as well.